Saturday, July 15, 2006 @9:24 PM
u An interesting story to share...see what you make of it...
today i met up with an old friend, we sat down and chatted and talked abt some stuff...the person was really troubled abt a prob..she told me abt her friend back in school that she felt quite pissed with..she said that she tried everything to help the person in every and any possible way but the person was not willing to reciprocate. Everytime there was something that the person wanted, or needed, she would be the first to offer help and assistance, even if it meant inconvieniecing her. But when my friend asked for the slightest of help, the person was the first to distance herself from the prob...vexed she was...poor thing...she kept thinking hey maybe she has her reasons..but the more it seems that the person was just intent on doing what makes her life the most comfortable and easy, not placing my friends welfare above her own..she said she didnt need her friend's life to revolve round her, just felt that sometimes you have got to make sacrifices as well...i cant say i disagree with her..she brought up a particularly valid point abt how if you do things only when you are convienent you are not a gd friend..cause like that anyone can be a good friend. A gd friend is one who goes over and above the call of duty to help the person..regardless of the circumstances...studies may be one thing..but if you are not willing to make that kind of sacrifice then should you two even be friends...that's what i told her...
The thing that made my friend the saddest was that she had absolutely no way of telling her friend that. Rmb in my earlier post i said sometimes things can be awkward even among the best of friends and this was one of them. She tried once and the friend promised to change but nothing happened....so how to be more patient...?
i think that when things happen like that..its really difficult to be understanding to the other party. i mean you tried talking to her and tried to clarify it with her but to no avail. Sometimes you can try to be as understanding as you can but if they dont want to change there is nothing you can do or say that will change that..you have done your best....maybe its time to look for a new friend..pronto...to this person if you are reading this...let me tell you something..you had a chance..in fact many chances to save it but you blew them one by one...life is abt choices...you made a choice to ditch ppl and so you must bear the consequence of not having that person as a friend anymore...worse still u have to make the other person bear the consequence along with you...its hard...whoever this person is...i hope you will reflect...
anyway today my friends came to celebrate my b dae with me...thanks to wei sheng, jin yong, xavier, alfred, liang hock , yi long and chris..you really made this a very special bdae i will nvr forget..haha...i loved the shirt and the Mr Bean bear...suits me seeing as in i am such a Bean like person..haha..thanks a million you guys are the best friends in the world..had lots of fun..hehe...sorry that i sucked at pool...i'll improve..
tired...but hey xiamen's in a wks time...whoo...go AJ choir...
un dieu benissent toujours
may god bless you always...
